actually, there are enough opportunities to meet someone: the fitness training, in the crowded cafe, the common control according to the dosenravioli in supermarket. and the internet offers many opportunities to partner to go. however, it is difficult for many people to find a new partner. especially those who are alone for a long time, do not so to the search for life. why and how dauersingles the right partner. don’t prejudge them often are dauersingles in the research itself in the way. often, they have very high expectations for the future partner after the last loser to be perfect. there are standards to appearance, status and character set, the hardly a man can do. this inflated expectations can ultimately the eyes close potential candidates. of course this does not mean that you must lower their personal standards completely. you should to but more time and opportunity to get acquainted to you. if it is not, at first sight back, this is not a criterion for exclusion. much more important is that same interests, a similar education and values. and it is only with time. some commitment issues “- confidence build after numerous schiefgegangenen relations have many people terrified of commitment, developed a new partnership ‘. especially women often fear, a man not to meet again to be deserted. in this case, is the fear of the failure of the relationship is greater than the desire for you, as psychotherapist stephanie steel in her book, “appearance”. the basic problem with all bindungsängsten is therefore a lack of self-esteem. a new bond would raise, therefore, must according to this steel first learn to accept who he is. take the initiative in many dauersingles are unsettled. not only your self-esteem suffers, the courage to meet other people, with the years gone. but who, just waiting to be found, perhaps missed mr. or mrs. right. in order to find the right partner, it is therefore essential to be proactive and take initiative. to do this, you must be brave, but not in the next bar an attractive person. the internet provides good opportunities to the search. this is anonymous and the rejection of requests, there is far less damaging than from a stranger in a bar. choose the right place, they are so far outside the network actively dating to go, you should be thinking about the appropriate place. it is important that you feel in this place, and also to identify with them. there’s nothing in a samba dance club to go for passionate people to meet, if you do not like to dance. because it is their fundamental interests are not identical. in general, for popular flirt meetings, there is a relaxed and casual atmosphere. cd stores and concerts are well suited to meet new people. at least you have been in the community for a nice talk. don’t sit under pressure if it not immediately with your work, this is no reason to despair. love takes time. sit not under pressure. because desperate advances are rare good over there and you don’t recommend for a long-term relationship. they are, above all, never on himself. everyone has attractive properties, you just have to herauskehren. if you are uncertain about their chocolate side are just friends, you should ask what you appreciate. it is your smile, your sense of humor or wisdom? you sent. the erhaschten compliments from friends also give new confidence and motivate them to search for partners to remain on the ball.