Throughout the process of learning about yourself and BDSM, talk to potential partners and ultimately explore SM with someone else. Each time you come across an activity that you’ve never heard of or that is interesting, make sure you add it to your list and rank it.
What Else Can You Add to the List?
Your checklist can also list relationship aspects you learn about or are curious to try. Things like submission, rules, and restrictions of interest, types of relationships you hear about like D/s, M/s and Daddy/little. There are numbers more. Types of service you might like to learn about can also go on this list. Ideas are limitless.
That’s Great for Beginners But I’ve Been at This For Awhile
You are right, an SM checklist isn’t always necessary when you’ve been at this awhile. Do you remember where you put your little checklist? When was the last time you looked at it? You could learn a lot about where you are going in your explorations and give you ideas to what you may want to try next.
If you are in a relationship a checklist is even less useful as you explore each other. I don’t even use the list anymore. When Master and I want to try something new we don’t need the checklist to see if we are compatible anymore. We just talk about it.
Take It To Another Level
Keeping a checklist is also nice if you are developing your own training or slave resume. Making sure that it’s accurate and up to date is one of the best ways to let Dominants know of your play experience levels.
Whatever you decide to do with a checklist, having one as a novice is almost vital to your explorations.
Checklists Available Online