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Exposed! 5 Myths of BDSM You Should Know

This is a guest post by Rachel M.

For novice level masochists at play, who are curious about BDSM, clearing up all the shades of gray once and for all! Here we go—no safety word needed!

Myth #1 – BDSM is not exclusively dedicated to inflicting pain. Sexual sadism, on the other hand, is all about getting turned on by causing harm to others. Comparatively, Common BDSM is about sexual freedom and exploration within the confines of safety.

Myth #2 – The Dominant Partner Controls Everything

When picturing the dominant partner, nearly everyone imagines a kinky control-freak punishing their partner doggy style. Is this necessarily the case? Of course not! In fact, the submissive partner can also take an authoritative role; guiding and instructing the dominant partner through each act. In many cases, it’s actually the submissive partner who calls the shots—“faster, softer” etc.

Myth #3 – There’s Always Leather and Chains

Does BDSM pleasures can involve any type of costume or toys, from an innocent tickling feather to a rock hard vibrating dildo—the options are completely up to you.

For couples who would like to test the erotic waters with bondage, a beginner level restraint system will add some fire between the sheets. “Usually these systems come with a total of four wrist and ankle cuffs so you can strap your partner’s arms and legs to the bed,” suggests Sex Expert Bobby Box in his article, “toys-couples/”>Best Sex Toys for Couples.”

Whether it’s heavy chains or just cutesy furry pink handcuffs, there’s no right or wrong when it comes to props.

Myth #4 – BDSM. It doesn’t have to be violent and merciless in order to be effective.

Couples who are engaging in some rougher power struggles are not basing their interactions on cruelty and brutality. And if there is any humiliation or physical tension involved, it’s consensual and in the best interest of pleasuring the submissive partner—not harming them! Conversely, sexual abuse involves the “intentional intimidation for the purpose of dominating, coercing, or isolating another without her or his consent,” reveals Jan Hall in her article, “Domestic Violence in the S/M Community” for the Pandora Project, an online support group for survivors of rape and sexual abuse.

Myth #5 – Sex Must be Involved

Did you know that BDSM, you can try putting your new knowledge to the test. And remember, safety first!

Rachel M. is an experimental sex deviant who loves all things both naughty and nice. Her fetishes include power struggles and restraints with a special interest in role playing. Her experiences have been shared in popular blogs, including Your Tango and Slutty Girl Problems.

Author Since: Jul 26, 2018

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