When it comes to self-pleasure, most women have a specific set of moves that guarantee climax every time. But even if your tried-and-true method works like a charm, over time that routine may start to feel a little, well, routine. Hitting a masturbation plateau doesn’t have to happen though! Avoid a solo sex rut with these five enhancements.
“It’s a hard fact that women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm and Sex With Emily podcast. If you’ve only been using your fingers, it’s time to treat yourself: Morse recommends the Pocket Rocket due to its solid track record and affordable price tag. But if this isn’t your first rodeo and you’d like something a little more invigorating, try the Form 2 by Jimmyjane ($189; goodvibes.com). While the cost is a little steep, the five different intensity levels, four different pulsing patterns, and rechargeable battery make it worthwhile, says Morse. (Want more suggestions? Try this advice from Good Vibrations: Supercharge Your Sex Life.)
Variety is what spices up sex—even the kind we have with ourselves, says Morse. If you typically stroke yourself in a diagonal pattern—moving your fingers over your clitoris from side to side—try varying your stroke technique by caressing it using an up and down motion instead. Another option: Use one finger to trace circles around your clitoris without touching it directly, says Morse. The nerve endings will still be indirectly stimulated, which helps build up a lot of tension and excitement before you even zero in on your pleasure point.
“Orgasm builds from arousal, not the other way around,” says Morse. Mentally prime yourself for the main event by prepping for the Big-O, she suggests. Carve out a physical and mental space that makes you feel most relaxed: Draw a bath, light a candle, step away from your phone, or power down the TV. “Stress can be one of the biggest killers of a woman’s sex drive, so learning to calm down and soothe yourself is one of the best exercises you can master,” says Morse.
Need a little erotic enhancement to put you in the mood? Try Good Vibrations After Dark, a site with a vast collection of female-friendly porn, Morse suggests. (Or this: The New Porn That Will Transform Your Sex Life.)
“Most women masturbate lying on their backs once they find which works best, they typically stick to that position,” says Morse. An easy way to experience self-pleasure in a new fashion is by simply repositioning your body. “Flip onto your stomach and find something that stimulates you when you rub up against it, like a pillow or a blanket,” advises Morse. “You’ll be directly targeting your clitoris and can apply more pressure and intensity with your body weight, which could end in a new orgasmic sensation.” Another option: Take your solo-play outside the bedroom and give it a whirl in the bath or shower.
“Lubricant is like the salt of sexual world—it has the power to make everything feel (or taste) a lot better,” says Morse. Pjur or Uberlube—both silicon-based lubricants—are slippery and perfect for finger play. But keep in mind that it’s best to use a water-based lube, like Astroglide, with your sex toys so it doesn’t damage the product, says Morse. (And don’t be afriad to bring lube into your friendly frolics—it’s one of 5 Moves to Orgasm Tonight.)