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Acronyms, Abbreviations and Initialisms in BDSM Conversation

Oftentimes instead of writing out the words we abbreviate or create acronyms or groups of initials to say the same thing. Here is a list of the more common letter groupings when it comes to talking about BDSM: General term referring to the entire range of D/s; an amalgamation of abbreviations:

  • BD: Bondage and Discipline
  • D/s: Dominance and submission
  • S/m: Sado-masochism

BFD: Big Fucking DealBRB – Be Right Back… commonly used when IMingBS: Bullshit!BUMP:  In discussion, a “>

CBT: Cock and Ball Torture
CD: Cross Dresser
CDD: Christian Domestic Discipline

D-F

DL: Diaper Lover
DM: Dungeon Monitor
D/s: Dominance/submission
DTTAH: Don’t Try This At Home

EMC: Erotic Mind Control

FEM: Abbrev. for “female”, as in FEM DOM.
FFF, FMF, FMM, etc: Refers to “threesomes”, F for female, M for male.
FFS: For Fucks Sake
FtM: Female to Male transgender (see TG note)
FUBAR: Fucked Up Beyond All Recognition
FUMTU: Fucked Up More Than Usual
FWIW: For What It’s Worth
FYI: For Your Information

G-J

GF: Gender Fluid
GG: Gender Girl
GIGO: Garbage In Garbage Out
GL: Good Looking
GM: Gender Male
GMTA: Great Minds Think Alike (can be combined with YFSD)
GTMI: Giving Too Much Information
GQ: Gender Queer

HARD: Honour Accountability Responsibility Duty.
HILT: Honesty Integrity loyalty Trust.
HWP: Height-Weight Proportional

IANAL: I Am Not A Lawyer
IDGAD, IDGAF: I Don’t Give A Damn (Fuck)
IM (IMing) – Instant Messenger. Refers to chat services like Yahoo Messenger and Skype, think of it as texting from your computer.
IMHO: In My Honest Opinion
IMhO: In My humble Opinion
IMNSHO: In My Not So Humble Opinion
IMO: In My Opinion
IMPE: In My Personal Experience
RL: In Real Life
ISO: In Search Of (usu. refers to “personals” ad)

K-M

KMA: Kiss My Ass

LD, LDR: Long Distance Relationship
LGBT: Lesbian, Gay, Bi, Trans (generalization encompassing all of alternate sexuality)
LMAO: Laughing My Ass Off
LMBO: Laughing My Butt Off
LOL: Laughing Out Loud
LT, LTR: Long-Term Relationship

MC: Mind Control
MILF: Mother I’d Like to Fuck
MFF, MFM, MMM, etc: Refers to “threesomes”, F for female, M for male.
MFIC: Mother Fucker In Charge
MtF: Male to Female transgender
MYOB, MYOFB: Mind Your Own (Fucking) Business

N-Q

NBD, NBFD: No Big (Fucking) Deal
NLA: National Leather Association
NSA: No Strings Attached

OL, O/L, OLR: On-line relationship
OP: Original Post or Original Poster
OSO: Other Significant Other
OTK: Over The Knee

PE: Power Exchange
PYL: Pick Your Label 

R-V

R & P: Restraint and Pleasure
RACK: Risk Aware Consensual Kink (alternative philosophy to SSC)
ROFL, ROTFL: Rolling On (The) Floor Laughing
ROFLMAO: Rolling On Floor Laughing My Ass Off
RL, R/L: Real Life
RT, R/T: Real Time
RU, RUA: Are you (a) ______?

SAM, SAS: Smart-Ass Masochist/Subbie
SDS: Same Damned Spot
SNAFU: Situation Normal: All Fucked Up
SO: Significant Other
SOSDD: Same Old Shit, Different Day
SRS: Sexual Reassignment Surgery
SSBBW: Super-Size Big Beautiful Woman
SSC: Safe, Sane, Consensual (alternative philosophy to RACK)
SSDD: Same Shit, Different Day

TB: Teen Baby
TBH, TBTH: To Be (Totally) Honest
TFF: Too Fucking Funny
TG: Trans-Gender
TGFM, TG F-M, TG FtoM, etc: Trans-Gender Female-to-Male
TGMF, TG M-F, TG MtoF, etc: Trans-Gender Male-to-Female
TIA: Thanks In Advance
TIH: Taken In Hand
TLDR: Too Long, Didn’t Read
TMI: Too Much Information
TPE: Total Power Exchange
TTFN: Ta Ta For Now
TTYL: Talk To You Later
TTYS: Talk To You Soon
TV: Transvestite
TY: Thank You
TYVM: Thank You Very Much
TY,TYVM 

UDM: Ultimate Decision Maker

W-Z

WEG: Wicked Evil Grin
WIITWD: What It Is That We Do
WTF: What the Fuck
WTMI: Way Too Much Information

YFSD: Yet Fools Seldom Differ (can be combined with GMTA)
YKINMK: Your Kink Is Not My Kink
YKNMKBTOK: Your Kink’s Not My Kink But That’s OK
YKINMKBYKIOK: Your Kink Is Not My Kink But Your Kink Is OK
YKINNMK: Your Kink Is Not Necessarily My Kink
YKINOK: Your Kink Is Not OK
YKIOK, IJNMK: Your Kink Is OK, It’s Just Not My Kink
YMMV: Your Mileage May Vary
YMW: You’re Most Welcome
YQW, YRQW: You’re (Really) Quite Welcome
YW: You’re Welcome

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Author Since: Jul 26, 2018

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