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Entering the Community: Who You'll Meet and What You Can Expect at a Play Party/BDSM Dungeon

Welcome to part

five

in this week’s series all about how to

help you feel more comfortable entering and becoming a part of the local BDSM Dungeon.

Unlike attending a munch, which is very vanilla and very relaxed, going to a private play party or a local BDSM is a pretty inclusive lifestyle, and there’s no telling who’s kinky in your local community.

Many people will be in their fetish gear. Some will arrive in street clothes and change before joining the group. You’ll see all manners of dress. Corsets, leather pants, no pants, men in women’s clothing, women in almost no clothing. My very first trip to a I talked about rules and protocols. Here is where you’ll see a higher protocol than you might be used to. Every club, dungeon, and party has its own rules and expectations. When you’re new, you should be told what the rules are or given the information about how to find them. If that information isn’t immediately shared, ask.

No one should expect perfection when you’re new. If you make a mistake and break a rule (like talking to a submissive without their Dominant’s permission), simply apologize and correct the mistake. Yes, there are assholes even in the kink community and someone might make an issue out of it. When in doubt, ask a dungeon master what you should do.

There should be a social area you can hang out in. It may or may not be adjacent to where others are playing or having scenes. If it is, keep your voice down a bit. It’s not polite or safe to break the concentration of people in a scene – someone could get hurt.

Depending on the rules of the club or party, you may see full nudity, sexual penetration, and other intensely sexual and private moments. Don’t be completely surprised by it. It might not be your thing, but if it’s allowed and the dungeon master believes it’s safe, either ignore it or enjoy the show.

Remember, everyone’s experience at a dungeon or party is unique to them. Go in with an open mind, a willingness to learn and follow the rules, and a polite demeanor, and you’ll be fine. You might even walk away with a few new tricks to try in your next scene or (if you’re like me) a willingness to scene in front of everyone the next time you go.

Entering the Community Series

Part 1: Finding Other Local Kinksters Using Online Resources

Part 2: Socializing with Kinksters

Part 3: Understanding and Following General Protocols in Public

Part 4: Who You’ll Meet and What to Expect at a Munch

Part 5: Who You’ll Meet and What to Expect at a Creative Commons (Google Images)

Author Since: Jul 26, 2018

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