This is a guest post by bgtreasure for the BDSM dictionaries: Impact Play: Often referred to as edgy. The action is the same as paddling or spanking but done with the intent to cause deep tissue bruising. A bruise that is very painful and may take very long to heal.
So with the intent to cause deep tissue bruising which is something that I don’t really pay attention to it’s the more intense pounding and beating that gets me off. I tend not bruise easily if at all. I do consider this as a part of play that is edge play because the serious damage could be done if it is not done correctly or without care for your partner. I do however love when I do bruise and can feel it for the rest of the week and see the fruits of Sir’s labor.
Some instruments used for Impact Play are hands and fists, kicking, floggers and paddles which are of course used in various other forms of play but it is the intensity when using them that makes it Impact Play. In my play, it’s a steady rhythmic beating, building, and building and intensifying as we go on.
When playing and going into this arena of play I find that I have to have a period of time to get my head straight with my partner, relaxing into him, relaxing my breathing and focusing on him before we start to play and we tend to build up rather than go full force out and out from the beginning. Sir increases and decreases depending on where he knows that I am at and then pushes it to the level he wants me to be at.
I think the fact that I have to have a very special connection with my partner in order to go this far. In my current relationship I believe our connection is so deep that he has taken me further than I have ever been and the experience each time after we first started playing has placed me in such a deep subspace that I literally can be beaten with any instrument and I just float, I feel as though I am on top of the world looking down at my body and my partner with a smile on my face swaying to some tune that is playing in my head. Everything else drops away as each strike comes and becomes an expression of ecstasy.
Impact Play is generally the only type play (other than physically touching the genital area) that can make me come. Again I think this comes because of our connection and that we can play so deeply and that he is in tune with my body but it sets off a reaction that somewhere deep in my mind that says this is hot, this is delicious, this makes you wet it’s time for you to come. At first, I thought it was a fluke because it’s not easy to make me come but as we continue to play more and specifically when he uses his hands as the instrument of torture I usually come and more than once.
Impact play for me is very freeing sometimes it’s like a very intense full body massage breaking the stress of the day, the week, the month. I personally prefer when Sir uses his hands it makes it so much more personal and I believe strengthens our connection, however, floggers and paddles can take me there as well.
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