Finding Your Tribe-The Importance of the Kink Community
I sign up for a lot of emails. I get four to five daily recipes newsletters as well as several ebooks bargains of the day, daily quotes, and an occasional blog here and there. The other thing I sign up for is called The Daily OM. It’s a daily email newsletter with a message that usually has some rather thought-provoking ideas and some very good inspiration as well. One particular message I got, really struck a chord with me and made me think about the people I surround myself with. It’s titled “Finding Your Tribe” and here’s a passage from that day’s newsletter:
However your life develops after you come together with your tribe, you can be assured that its members will stand at your side. On the surface, your tribe may seem to be nothing more than a loose-knit group of friends and acquaintances to whom you ally yourself. Yet when you look deeper, you will discover that your tribe grounds you and provides you with a sense of community that ultimately fulfills many of your most basic human needs.
I read that and I felt like I had walked right into a brick wall because I could so relate to what was being said. Over the years, I have found out why it’s so important to have a support system in place, especially when you’re kinky.
Almost ten years ago when I started out in the BDSM authors, both fiction and nonfiction, but I have made some amazing kink friends on there as well who have become a part of my support system along with these groups.
I feel like I have rambled, which I am seriously notorious for doing, but my very long-winded point is, a community is important. It’s important to have a place, whether it’s a local munch or an online group, to go to and be with like-minded people who do care and support you and want to help you grow as a person, within the lifestyle and your vanilla life. You can’t go this alone. I’ve tried and it doesn’t work. There is a lot of truth to the saying “safety in numbers”, because the more people you consider your tribe, the safer you will be.