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First Playtime Jitters and How to Arrive Prepared

Every submissive goes though it. You may be going through it now. Those butterflies in your stomach because you’ve just set a date for your first play session. Things are still so new and exciting. You don’t know what to expect or how you will react to things. It’s all so strange and foreign feeling. You aren’t alone. Even the most experienced submissive can go through the butterflies before play, but there are ways to learn to relax and be a bit more prepared for what might happen at your first play session.

1. Talk to the Dominant beforehand.

Make sure that they understand your nervousness. Ask them lots of questions about what might happen during your playtime or you can even specify what you would like to experience. Don’t take it too extreme that first time. You have all the time in the world to try play piercing or the single tail whip. If you aren’t sure if you like pain at all, don’t hide that from the Dominant. The point of this is to keep the lines of communication open. They want you to enjoy yourself as much as they want to enjoy the experience. Find out what they will expect of you well in advance.

2. Learn about what is going to happen.

If the Dominant has a spanking planned and you don’t know a lot about consensual spanking, read about it. Go on forums and ask questions, become familiar with the terms and knowledge available to you. If you must, look at pictures and porn related to the event. Knowing about what will happen will help you calm your nerves.

3. Set up a safe call.

This doesn’t have to be elaborate. Just let someone else know that you are going on a date, of if they are into sub drop and I suggest you think about some self-aftercare. I think it brings the event full circle.

Are you getting ready for your first play session? Do you have questions you’d like answered? Contact me!


Author Since: Jul 26, 2018