Getting Back Into The Game: Returning to Kink After a Break
Getting back into BDSM is all about trust and while I trust Chief so much in the day-to-day life things, he hasn’t asserted himself like that sexually in a long time, so the trust that I had in him regarding dominance had diminished.
He took the statement well. He was taken aback, of course, because he thought that I would just bow back down, but he totally respected my statement. The signs of a good master – not going past boundaries. So we incorporated bits of kink into our sex last night. In reality, though we used handcuffs, and he choked me a little, and he bit me, that wasn’t the truly kinky aspect of sex.
I saw the dominance in his eyes again and could tell that he wanted to dominate me. Seeing that look brought out my inner submissive. That’s what I had been needing. And the more that I see that look when we have sex, the more that I will trust his dominant instincts.
Of course, the trusting process will be faster this time around than when we first got into kink. But we have to re-learn some things, we have to hone in on our instincts.
If you were a sailor and didn’t go out on a boat for a few years, your instincts would be there, but you should probably take some time to remember how to do things and acclimate yourself to the sea before you set out on a major sailing expedition. I think this is pretty much the same thing.