Hi! My partner and I are both fairly inexperienced in D/s, and we haven’t quite got the hang of how to do a scene. As she says; “I can tie you up alright, but then what?” It’s hard for her to know what to do, and it’s hard for me to know exactly what I want. We’ve been trying on our own for a while, but it’s more complicated than we’d expected. Do you have any tips, useful links/books, or a how-to of sorts that could be followed step by step for our first try? Thanks 🙂
Being new to kink is an exciting time and you are right, it can feel overwhelming. I don’t have a step by step guide for how to have a scene simply because there are so many options available and are dependent on what you both enjoy.
What I can suggest are ways you can come up with ideas of what to do together.
Watch Kink.com (affiliate link).
Read Check all the reviews.
I know, this seems like a cop out, but honestly, it is one of the best search engines out there. Typing in what to when my partner is tied up nets me 20 million results. Enjoy browsing.
Go to a local munch group.
Talking to others about kink can help spark your creative juices for your own play. And you could make friends in the process. It’s a win-win. Head to FindaMunch.com to find your local community.
This one should go without saying, but what if the tying up is all you do? Is there something wrong with that? Nope, not one bit. There doesn’t have to be an “and then what” part to play. If you pick one thing and do it, that’s a scene. End with sex or cuddling doesn’t matter as long as you both have had fun and experimented.