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Talking Shop – Tips for Purchasing BDSM Toys

On my own blog, I’ve recently been reviewing various toys (or indeed of anything) might be made by the Dom without the sub being aware of what new toys might await him or her. For some this might work really well since it adds the element of surprise about what new toy or item might be added to a session until it’s brought out and used, however sometimes it is nice to know what is coming also.

In our relationship it’s a mix really. Sometimes Grimly buys things without me knowing, and sometimes we buy things together. Sometimes I also like buying items that he doesn’t know about and having the fun of wondering how he will incorporate it into play and also whether or not I’ll actually like it or not. I’ve bought a few things in the past that I’ve clicked the buy button on and then hoped would get lost in the post! (Such as inflatable enema plugs for instance!)

Really who buys what depends on what suits the relationship, but there can be fun all ways 🙂

What to buy?

When I shop for items I try to choose things that I think will add to my adventures with Grimly and we choose things that we cannot make ourselves. Before I had the luxury of a dom that could create though myself and my Eex started off buying the basics.

First purchases might include thingslike::

  • collars – perhaps first play collars and then later on something more substantial
  • a leash
  • a set of cuffs
  • rope
  • handcuffs
  • a butt plug
  • a vibrator
  • a blindfold
  • hitting implements – such as paddles, floggers, crops ,canes

Of course it depends on the fetishes of both sub and dom as to whether they buy these things or others. I suppose to anyone starting out I would always suggest buying relatively inexpensive items till you know you like what the type of toy does and then perhaps upgrade – then the shopping experience is fun twice 😉 However I’ve also known people new to toys

  • Hoods
  • Gas masks
  • Latex
  • Really though there are so many items out there that lend themselves to being enjoyed in a D/s relationship that the list is actually endless and of course I am forgetting the items that can be bought that aren’t necessarily designed for play as their first purpose – pegs, kitchen implements, brushes and all other sorts of day-to-day items that a couple might decide to fill their toy box with.

    Choosing where to shop?

    In the past I’ve shopped at lots of different kinky retailers. I quite like places that I can go and visit though. Here in the UK we have a fetish market in Birmingham-BBB  and a further two in London  –LAM  & LFF. I bought a lot of my first items from the BBB. Fetish markets are great places because usually they are a chance to see different retailers in one place, and also to be able to have fun meeting up with people too. A lot of fetish markets allow fetish gear to be worn so it is a very enjoyable experience overall.

    Sometimes of course going to fetish markets is not possible. It is also good to be able to go to stores though in person however ability to do this depends on geography. Where I am (Scotland) there is not a great deal of choice nearby however there are a few interesting places in England especially around Manchester and London. Likewise in other cities both in the States and Europe there are interesting shops with premises you can visit. A few years ago I was lucky enough to visit Mr S in San Francisco – an amazing shop but very busy given it was Folsom street weekend! It’s nice to be able to browse items though and also to a be able to ask the vendor for advice.

    It’s a fact of life though – most toys for you and your partner?

    Are there any stores you like particularly or dislike?

    What has been your most exciting purchase for you so far?

     

    Author Since: Jul 26, 2018

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