Let’s get the facts straight from the beginning: The G-spot is no Loch Ness Moster or Big Foot-type mythical creature. It exists. And while it might seem elusive and mysterious, it’s not playing hard to get—you just have to know where to look.
Resident sexpert Dr. Logan Levkoff breaks down the anatomy behind this female pleasure center: About two inches in on the front wall of the vagina, you’ll feel an area where the skin transitions from smooth to bumpy or spongy (this is when the famed “come-hither” gesture comes in handy). That bumpy area is your paraurethral sponge, which supports the urethra and is like an “X” marking the spot on the treasure map to your G-spot. (We’ll bet you didn’t know these other six interesting facts about your vagina either.)
Having trouble finding it on your own? The area pools with liquid when you’re aroused, which makes it more noticeable, says Dr. Levkoff. So try a little clitoral stimulation or wait until things get heated with your partner before searching for G-spot gold. (But, actually, some women are even getting shots to “amplify” their G-spots.) And even though it’s called a “spot,” it’s not like a magic button that will turn you into an orgasm goddess; you may need to play around to find out what feels best. (Maybe it’s with fingers, or using one of these five sex positions that put more pressure on the front wall of the vagina).
If G-spot stimulation is working for you, then firm, consistent pressure can produce some seriously wet and powerful orgasms and even female ejaculation, says Dr. Levkoff. But she says it’s also important to note that not all women are the same, and neither are their responses to G-spot stimulation (and no one shares the same precise location, for that matter). (If you’re having trouble orgasming during sex, Dr. Levkoff can help with that too.)
Moral of the story: Don’t stress if your G-spot isn’t all you’d hoped it would be. Maybe clitoral stimulation is what gets you going, maybe it’s penetration, or it could be a blend of both. Either way, no O-shaming here.